Comments on: the psychotherapist in context http://www.moritherapy.org making lives better, making better lives Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:02:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-752577 isabella mori Thu, 12 Aug 2010 04:48:21 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-752577 thanks, anthony! this here http://www.moritherapy.org/research-at-the-edge-of-awareness/ is a bit of a sister article - about researchers' "stuff" :) thanks, anthony!

this here http://www.moritherapy.org/research-at-the-edge-of-awareness/ is a bit of a sister article – about researchers’ “stuff”

:)

]]> By: Anthony Centore Ph.D. http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-752574 Anthony Centore Ph.D. Thu, 12 Aug 2010 04:40:00 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-752574 Tremendous article! It really illustrates the influence therapists' own stuff (let alone clinical ability) can have in the outcome of their clients' treatment--and the way therapist bias can easily find its way into the counseling relationship. Tremendous article! It really illustrates the influence therapists’ own stuff (let alone clinical ability) can have in the outcome of their clients’ treatment–and the way therapist bias can easily find its way into the counseling relationship.

]]> By: Clinical Psychologists’ Perceptions of Persons with Mental Illness | Brain Blogger http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-726919 Clinical Psychologists’ Perceptions of Persons with Mental Illness | Brain Blogger Thu, 20 May 2010 12:01:26 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-726919 [...] the other hand, psychologists are people. Like you and me, they have personal likes and dislikes; perhaps they are even not so different [...] [...] the other hand, psychologists are people. Like you and me, they have personal likes and dislikes; perhaps they are even not so different [...]

]]> By: digging for a voice: reflections http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-721822 digging for a voice: reflections Sat, 01 May 2010 20:15:17 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-721822 [...] the psychotherapist in context [...] [...] the psychotherapist in context [...]

]]> By: Steve http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-644935 Steve Fri, 03 Apr 2009 03:36:21 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-644935 I have been paying for my own consultation/supervision and cannot imagine how I ever practiced apart from it. My current clinical supervisor is fantastic, and I have learned an infinite amount since working with her. I am so grateful for the learning, support, and challenge that she provides. It definitely enriches my work and helps me provide the best possible service to my clients. I have been paying for my own consultation/supervision and cannot imagine how I ever practiced apart from it. My current clinical supervisor is fantastic, and I have learned an infinite amount since working with her. I am so grateful for the learning, support, and challenge that she provides. It definitely enriches my work and helps me provide the best possible service to my clients.

]]> By: Melody Brooke http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-644819 Melody Brooke Thu, 02 Apr 2009 14:12:25 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-644819 Very interesting way to look at the dynamic between counselor and client. The important thing of course, is to recognize that we can fall into any of these roles at a particular given time in our careers and that the problem is being in the role and not being a human being. Very interesting way to look at the dynamic between counselor and client. The important thing of course, is to recognize that we can fall into any of these roles at a particular given time in our careers and that the problem is being in the role and not being a human being.

]]> By: Jessica http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-637218 Jessica Thu, 05 Mar 2009 04:52:30 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-637218 thank you, you certainly know how to narrow things down to their essence, i'll try it thank you, you certainly know how to narrow things down to their essence, i’ll try it

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-637215 isabella mori Thu, 05 Mar 2009 04:22:22 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-637215 hi jessica if you were sexually abused as a child (i don't know if that's the case) then you have gotten the message that a big part of who you are is your desirability as a sex object. a well-trained, stable and trustworthy counsellor will see you as a client first and foremost. most likely, he has another therapist (a "supervisor") with whom he can discuss any feelings that come up for him in the course of therapy. it's quite possible that he is not sexually attracted to you, and even if he is, as a good counsellor, he will not act on it. that's one of the biggest things we learn as counsellors. plus, of course, it's unethical for a counsellor to engage in sexual/romantic relationships with a client. a therapist who engages in sexual relationships with his or her clients can easily lose their license! you can ask your therapist who his supervisor is, and ask him to discuss his reactions with his supervisor after you have told him you are attracted to him. if your therapist is trustworthy, he will find ways for you to see you are a lovable person without getting romantic or sexual with you. when the time comes for you to tell him, you may also want to tell a trusted friend what you are about to do; they might be able to help keep YOU steady. does this help a bit? hi jessica

if you were sexually abused as a child (i don’t know if that’s the case) then you have gotten the message that a big part of who you are is your desirability as a sex object. a well-trained, stable and trustworthy counsellor will see you as a client first and foremost. most likely, he has another therapist (a “supervisor”) with whom he can discuss any feelings that come up for him in the course of therapy. it’s quite possible that he is not sexually attracted to you, and even if he is, as a good counsellor, he will not act on it. that’s one of the biggest things we learn as counsellors. plus, of course, it’s unethical for a counsellor to engage in sexual/romantic relationships with a client. a therapist who engages in sexual relationships with his or her clients can easily lose their license!

you can ask your therapist who his supervisor is, and ask him to discuss his reactions with his supervisor after you have told him you are attracted to him.

if your therapist is trustworthy, he will find ways for you to see you are a lovable person without getting romantic or sexual with you.

when the time comes for you to tell him, you may also want to tell a trusted friend what you are about to do; they might be able to help keep YOU steady.

does this help a bit?

]]> By: Jessica http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-637204 Jessica Thu, 05 Mar 2009 03:13:56 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-637204 Thank you so much for replying!!!! how do you really know, I trust his sincerity in wanting to be trustworthy, that is very evident, but to go were i need to go will be a lot of pressure!! I am like a stupid puppy that just desperately jumps up at any sign of affection love me love me, what makes this hard for this guy is that, and i don't mean to be full of my self as it really can be a curse, i 'm not ugly, men often are attracted to me and i have lost friends over this. Is it possible for a man to be that strong especially when pretty much every man wants to be a superhero to a fair maiden. He might start off strong but what happens if we get too close and then i am too far into the process i can't be objective enough to stop Thank you so much for replying!!!! how do you really know, I trust his sincerity in wanting to be trustworthy, that is very evident, but to go were i need to go will be a lot of pressure!! I am like a stupid puppy that just desperately jumps up at any sign of affection love me love me, what makes this hard for this guy is that, and i don’t mean to be full of my self as it really can be a curse, i ‘m not ugly, men often are attracted to me and i have lost friends over this. Is it possible for a man to be that strong especially when pretty much every man wants to be a superhero to a fair maiden. He might start off strong but what happens if we get too close and then i am too far into the process i can’t be objective enough to stop

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/comment-page-1/#comment-637193 isabella mori Thu, 05 Mar 2009 02:09:34 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/the-psychotherapist-in-context/#comment-637193 jessica - this is a hairy situation to be in, isn't it? i don't know much about you or the circumstances, but here are some words. let me know if you want to discuss this further. in the best case scenario, this situation can be a great opening for a transformation in how you relate to people. if you do feel you can trust your counsellor, the best thing really is to tell him how you feel about him. (chances are he has already noticed some of it, anyway). it takes a lot of courage, i know (i've done something like that before and still remember how hard my heart beat!) will you really get hurt in the end? hm - that depends on how you look at "hurt". if he is a trustworthy therapist, he will not reject you as a client or as a human being. he will explain to you the reasons why he cannot have a romantic relationship with you, and he will be responsible for putting boundaries around that. that may be disappointing but it will NOT be like the hurt you felt as a child. one of the hallmarks of abusive relationships is an absence of truth. telling an important truth to another human being, and then hearing THEIR important truth, face-to-face, in a safe environment, is a very powerful experience, one that will help you with other relationships. for me, the central question is, can you trust the therapist? and i don't mean superficial trust (he's always nice to me, he always listens to me, etc.) - but can this trust withstand some pressure? does he keep promises? does he treat you respectfully? does he discuss boundaries with you? if you honestly feel you can trust him, then take a deep breath, go for it and tell him! jessica – this is a hairy situation to be in, isn’t it?

i don’t know much about you or the circumstances, but here are some words. let me know if you want to discuss this further.

in the best case scenario, this situation can be a great opening for a transformation in how you relate to people.

if you do feel you can trust your counsellor, the best thing really is to tell him how you feel about him. (chances are he has already noticed some of it, anyway). it takes a lot of courage, i know (i’ve done something like that before and still remember how hard my heart beat!)

will you really get hurt in the end? hm – that depends on how you look at “hurt”. if he is a trustworthy therapist, he will not reject you as a client or as a human being. he will explain to you the reasons why he cannot have a romantic relationship with you, and he will be responsible for putting boundaries around that.

that may be disappointing but it will NOT be like the hurt you felt as a child.

one of the hallmarks of abusive relationships is an absence of truth. telling an important truth to another human being, and then hearing THEIR important truth, face-to-face, in a safe environment, is a very powerful experience, one that will help you with other relationships.

for me, the central question is, can you trust the therapist? and i don’t mean superficial trust (he’s always nice to me, he always listens to me, etc.) – but can this trust withstand some pressure? does he keep promises? does he treat you respectfully? does he discuss boundaries with you?

if you honestly feel you can trust him, then take a deep breath, go for it and tell him!

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