Comments on: would you like to free yourself of your past? http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/ making lives better, making better lives Fri, 10 Sep 2010 17:15:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: ClinicallyClueless http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/comment-page-1/#comment-687925 ClinicallyClueless Thu, 14 Jan 2010 16:52:22 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/#comment-687925 Interesting question and not one that I haven't asked before...despite everything that I've been through, it has made me who I am today. However, I do wish that I was not in such denial and asked for help at work when I really needed it. I wish that I would have pursued my Psy.D. earlier, but I wasn't mentally ready to do that. For me, my self-hatred gets in the way of everything, so I get stuck. But, that has to do with how I grew up, but it is now my responsibility. It sucks!! .-= ClinicallyClueless´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ClinicallyClueless/~3/DiL7nB_z0R4/past-journal-entry-123005-to-1206-part_14.html" rel="nofollow">PAST JOURNAL ENTRY: 12/30/05 to 1/2/06 ~ Part V (final)</a> =-. Interesting question and not one that I haven’t asked before…despite everything that I’ve been through, it has made me who I am today. However, I do wish that I was not in such denial and asked for help at work when I really needed it. I wish that I would have pursued my Psy.D. earlier, but I wasn’t mentally ready to do that.

For me, my self-hatred gets in the way of everything, so I get stuck. But, that has to do with how I grew up, but it is now my responsibility. It sucks!!
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]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/comment-page-1/#comment-519074 isabella mori Sat, 23 Aug 2008 20:40:48 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/#comment-519074 thanks for continuing the conversation, lin. i went to your blog yesterday and remembered having met you before in the blogosphere ... the values that are looked at in step 4 are compared to OUR goods, or as they say, "our side of the street". these values are standards we set for ourselves, not for others, simply because we have no power over how others act, we only have power over how we act and think (although that seems a bit limited sometimes, too, doesn't it?). actually, the sorting out of what acts "belong" to me and which ones "belong" to the other can be a very healing experience, and it is often part of step 4. in doing that, sometimes it turns out that we have taken way too much responsibility for events in the past over which we had little control (and of course, sometimes it's the other way round; but it's always full of surprises). in rereading this post, i realize that i talked about what this inventory is about but i'm pretty vague on ways to do it. material for another blog post, i guess :) thanks for continuing the conversation, lin. i went to your blog yesterday and remembered having met you before in the blogosphere …

the values that are looked at in step 4 are compared to OUR goods, or as they say, “our side of the street”. these values are standards we set for ourselves, not for others, simply because we have no power over how others act, we only have power over how we act and think (although that seems a bit limited sometimes, too, doesn’t it?).

actually, the sorting out of what acts “belong” to me and which ones “belong” to the other can be a very healing experience, and it is often part of step 4. in doing that, sometimes it turns out that we have taken way too much responsibility for events in the past over which we had little control (and of course, sometimes it’s the other way round; but it’s always full of surprises).

in rereading this post, i realize that i talked about what this inventory is about but i’m pretty vague on ways to do it. material for another blog post, i guess :)

]]> By: lin http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/comment-page-1/#comment-518255 lin Fri, 22 Aug 2008 23:58:41 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/#comment-518255 Sure. On the values side, an abiding belief that the world is a just, fair place and that kindness begets kindness, gentleness begets gentleness and basically good people lead basically good lives. On the experience side, a single, violent event at the hands of a stranger that lasted just three hours when I was 12 years old has somehow become the defining moment of my life. I have been reading your weblog for some time and do not comment much, but 'clearing wreckage' resonates with me and though I work pretty hard at healing, it is so slow going and if there are opportunities to hasten the process, I'm all ears and eager to jump in. Thanks, lin Sure.

On the values side, an abiding belief that the world is a just, fair place and that kindness begets kindness, gentleness begets gentleness and basically good people lead basically good lives.

On the experience side, a single, violent event at the hands of a stranger that lasted just three hours when I was 12 years old has somehow become the defining moment of my life.

I have been reading your weblog for some time and do not comment much, but ‘clearing wreckage’ resonates with me and though I work pretty hard at healing, it is so slow going and if there are opportunities to hasten the process, I’m all ears and eager to jump in.

Thanks,
lin

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/comment-page-1/#comment-517542 isabella mori Fri, 22 Aug 2008 05:01:00 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/#comment-517542 hi lin, and thanks for stopping by. can you tell me a little more about what you mean "your experience is in conflict with your values"? if it's too personal, please don't hesitate to use the contact form and get in touch with me that way. hi lin, and thanks for stopping by.

can you tell me a little more about what you mean “your experience is in conflict with your values”?

if it’s too personal, please don’t hesitate to use the contact form and get in touch with me that way.

]]> By: lin http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/comment-page-1/#comment-517440 lin Fri, 22 Aug 2008 02:23:47 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/#comment-517440 what do you do when your experience is in conflict with your values? i was hurt by a stranger over thirty years ago and i still cannot find room for that. what do you do when your experience is in conflict with your values? i was hurt by a stranger over thirty years ago and i still cannot find room for that.

]]> By: Larry Ackerman http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/comment-page-1/#comment-95068 Larry Ackerman Thu, 07 Jun 2007 14:31:40 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/would-you-like-to-free-yourself-of-your-past/#comment-95068 I think the idea of freeing yourself from your past is well intended and can be helpful - up to a point. I went through a process of 'unbundling' my past, over several years, because i wanted to 'clear the decks' in order to find out who i really was, absent the labels and clutter that accumulate over time. It was a wonderful and scary experience. It was finally liberating - but not because I simply 'freed myself from my past' but because I wound up finding - and embracing - my authentic self, which had been overshadowed by so many things. My point is: don't just let go of stuff; find stuff - find yourself, your innate identity, and hold on to what you find. It is the most beautiful and powerful force in one's life. Once I located, and was able to articulate, my identity, I understood how i could contribute in this world. This discovery set me off on a journey that has shaped my career and my life, very successfully. Today, i have the privilege of working with people and organizations around the world, helping them uncover and apply their identities in ways that benefit them and others. I have been inspired - indeed driven - to write about my experiences and insights in two books: The Identity Code and Identity Is Destiny. I'd invite anyone interested in "freeing themselves from the past" to look at these books - especially the first one - as a foundation for taking that most important journey of liberation. I think the idea of freeing yourself from your past is well intended and can be helpful – up to a point. I went through a process of ‘unbundling’ my past, over several years, because i wanted to ‘clear the decks’ in order to find out who i really was, absent the labels and clutter that accumulate over time. It was a wonderful and scary experience. It was finally liberating – but not because I simply ‘freed myself from my past’ but because I wound up finding – and embracing – my authentic self, which had been overshadowed by so many things.

My point is: don’t just let go of stuff; find stuff – find yourself, your innate identity, and hold on to what you find. It is the most beautiful and powerful force in one’s life. Once I located, and was able to articulate, my identity, I understood how i could contribute in this world. This discovery set me off on a journey that has shaped my career and my life, very successfully.

Today, i have the privilege of working with people and organizations around the world, helping them uncover and apply their identities in ways that benefit them and others. I have been inspired – indeed driven – to write about my experiences and insights in two books: The Identity Code and Identity Is Destiny.

I’d invite anyone interested in “freeing themselves from the past” to look at these books – especially the first one – as a foundation for taking that most important journey of liberation.

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