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]]> By: spiritual language http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/comment-page-1/#comment-673023 spiritual language Sat, 31 Oct 2009 01:57:03 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/#comment-673023 [...] society”), and before that we had a conversation about how uncomfortable it can be to engage in peaceful communication.  and now evan took up the topic the other day and asked how can we talk about our spiritual [...] [...] society”), and before that we had a conversation about how uncomfortable it can be to engage in peaceful communication.  and now evan took up the topic the other day and asked how can we talk about our spiritual [...]

]]> By: Toxic People at Work http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/comment-page-1/#comment-662897 Toxic People at Work Thu, 20 Aug 2009 01:49:06 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/#comment-662897 [...] advice. Some psychologists call these types “toxic people.”  They love to produce work conflict. They like to spread their poison.  Don’t let them get to you.  These people are socially [...] [...] advice. Some psychologists call these types “toxic people.”  They love to produce work conflict. They like to spread their poison.  Don’t let them get to you.  These people are socially [...]

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/comment-page-1/#comment-654297 isabella mori Wed, 13 May 2009 19:36:18 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/#comment-654297 @ian thank you for what you said about listening. so simple. so true. i am amazed at how after all these years of working in this profession, i can never hear and learn enough about listening. @alexander - wow, that's quite the list. first i thought, why would you suggest a translation but then when i looked closer, i think i know what you mean. it is still using a language of war, no? i think this is material for another blog post ... @damien thanks for your input! yes, i find that useful, too. talking to a friend who will not collude in any negative things that in a first impulse i may want to do or say. it sounds like it really works for you. @john that book looks really interesting. i just ordered it from my library. what's your new site? @ian thank you for what you said about listening. so simple. so true. i am amazed at how after all these years of working in this profession, i can never hear and learn enough about listening.

@alexander – wow, that’s quite the list. first i thought, why would you suggest a translation but then when i looked closer, i think i know what you mean. it is still using a language of war, no? i think this is material for another blog post …

@damien thanks for your input! yes, i find that useful, too. talking to a friend who will not collude in any negative things that in a first impulse i may want to do or say. it sounds like it really works for you.

@john that book looks really interesting. i just ordered it from my library.

what’s your new site?

]]> By: John Folk-Williams http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/comment-page-1/#comment-654249 John Folk-Williams Wed, 13 May 2009 15:56:45 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/#comment-654249 Hi, isabella - Dialogue and communication are big issues for me in my work life, and I agree that the language of any talk that really connects people can seem awkward at first. There are some techniques that have so many rules for creating a "safe" space that the whole thing feels artificial - and people don't really get through to each other. One of my favorite books on this is Daniel Yankelovich's The Magic of Dialogue. He puts the needed skills into a practical context for an audience that is often intolerant of many forms of structured discussion. I've started a new blog on public policy collaboration that goes into these issues in different ways than Storied Mind - but the basics hold true in both contexts. Thanks for another stimulating post. John <em>John Folk-Williams's last blog post..<a href='http://www.storiedmind.com/2009/05/12/writing-creativity-healing-depression/'>Writing, Creativity and Healing</a></em> Hi, isabella – Dialogue and communication are big issues for me in my work life, and I agree that the language of any talk that really connects people can seem awkward at first. There are some techniques that have so many rules for creating a “safe” space that the whole thing feels artificial – and people don’t really get through to each other. One of my favorite books on this is Daniel Yankelovich’s The Magic of Dialogue. He puts the needed skills into a practical context for an audience that is often intolerant of many forms of structured discussion.

I’ve started a new blog on public policy collaboration that goes into these issues in different ways than Storied Mind – but the basics hold true in both contexts.

Thanks for another stimulating post.

John

John Folk-Williams’s last blog post..Writing, Creativity and Healing

]]> By: Damien http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/comment-page-1/#comment-654192 Damien Wed, 13 May 2009 04:24:56 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/#comment-654192 Great article Isabella. I like the idea of bouncing ideas off a "peace" friend you can trust. For example, I have a co-worker who I seem to rub the wrong way. She has complained to the admin about me and it just floored me. I have another co-worker who really respects me and we get along great. I feel I can trust her advice. Before saying something important to the negative one I always "bounce it off" the other. That way she can tell me what to leave out, what to add, or if the communication is even really necessary. Great topic. <em>Damien's last blog post..<a href='http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/dual-diagnosis-an-important-distinction/'>Dual-Diagnosis in Mental Illness: an important distinction</a></em> Great article Isabella. I like the idea of bouncing ideas off a “peace” friend you can trust. For example, I have a co-worker who I seem to rub the wrong way. She has complained to the admin about me and it just floored me. I have another co-worker who really respects me and we get along great. I feel I can trust her advice. Before saying something important to the negative one I always “bounce it off” the other. That way she can tell me what to leave out, what to add, or if the communication is even really necessary. Great topic.

Damien’s last blog post..Dual-Diagnosis in Mental Illness: an important distinction

]]> By: Alexander M Zoltai http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/comment-page-1/#comment-654083 Alexander M Zoltai Tue, 12 May 2009 15:05:03 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/#comment-654083 Want to take a crack at translating the following into Peace-Talk terms? 198 Methods of Nonviolent Action. Practitioners of nonviolent struggle have an entire arsenal of "nonviolent weapons" at their disposal. Listed below are 198 of them, classified into three broad categories: nonviolent protest and persuasion, noncooperation (social, economic, and political), and nonviolent intervention. A description and historical examples of each can be found in volume two of "The Politics of Nonviolent Action" by Gene Sharp. The Methods of Nonviolent Protest and Persuasion Formal Statements 1. Public Speeches 2. Letters of opposition or support 3. Declarations by organizations and institutions 4. Signed public statements 5. Declarations of indictment and intention 6. Group or mass petitions Communications with a Wider Audience 7. Slogans, caricatures, and symbols 8. Banners, posters, and displayed communications 9. Leaflets, pamphlets, and books 10. Newspapers and journals 11. Records, radio, and television 12. Skywriting and earthwriting Group Representations 13. Deputations 14. Mock awards 15. Group lobbying 16. Picketing 17. Mock elections Symbolic Public Acts 18. Displays of flags and symbolic colors 19. Wearing of symbols 20. Prayer and worship 21. Delivering symbolic objects 22. Protest disrobings 23. Destruction of own property 24. Symbolic lights 25. Displays of portraits 26. Paint as protest 27. New signs and names 28. Symbolic sounds 29. Symbolic reclamations 30. Rude gestures Pressures on Individuals 31. "Haunting" officials 32. Taunting officials 33. Fraternization 34. Vigils Drama and Music 35. Humorous skits and pranks 36. Performances of plays and music 37. Singing Processions 38. Marches 39. Parades 40. Religious processions 41. Pilgrimages 42. Motorcades Honoring the Dead 43. Political mourning 44. Mock funerals 45. Demonstrative funerals 46. Homage at burial places Public Assemblies 47. Assemblies of protest or support 48. Protest meetings 49. Camouflaged meetings of protest 50. Teach-ins Withdrawal and Renunciation 51. Walk-outs 52. Silence 53. Renouncing honors 54. Turning one’s back The Methods of Social Noncooperation Ostracism of Persons 55. Social boycott 56. Selective social boycott 57. Lysistratic nonaction 58. Excommunication 59. Interdict Noncooperation with Social Events, Customs, and Institutions 60. Suspension of social and sports activities 61. Boycott of social affairs 62. Student strike 63. Social disobedience 64. Withdrawal from social institutions Withdrawal from the Social System 65. Stay-at-home 66. Total personal noncooperation 67. "Flight" of workers 68. Sanctuary 69. Collective disappearance 70. Protest emigration (hijrat) The Methods of Economic Noncooperation: Economic Boycotts Actions by Consumers 71. Consumers’ boycott 72. Nonconsumption of boycotted goods 73. Policy of austerity 74. Rent withholding 75. Refusal to rent 76. National consumers’ boycott 77. International consumers’ boycott Action by Workers and Producers 78. Workmen’s boycott 79. Producers’ boycott Action by Middlemen 80. Suppliers’ and handlers’ boycott Action by Owners and Management 81. Traders’ boycott 82. Refusal to let or sell property 83. Lockout 84. Refusal of industrial assistance 85. Merchants’ "general strike" Action by Holders of Financial Resources 86. Withdrawal of bank deposits 87. Refusal to pay fees, dues, and assessments 88. Refusal to pay debts or interest 89. Severance of funds and credit 90. Revenue refusal 91. Refusal of a government’s money Action by Governments 92. Domestic embargo 93. Blacklisting of traders 94. International sellers’ embargo 95. International buyers’ embargo 96. International trade embargo The Methods of Economic Noncooperation: The Strike Symbolic Strikes 97. Protest strike 98. Quickie walkout (lightning strike) Agricultural Strikes 99. Peasant strike 100. Farm Workers’ strike Strikes by Special Groups 101. Refusal of impressed labor 102. Prisoners’ strike 103. Craft strike 104. Professional strike Ordinary Industrial Strikes 105. Establishment strike 106. Industry strike 107. Sympathetic strike Restricted Strikes 108. Detailed strike 109. Bumper strike 110. Slowdown strike 111. Working-to-rule strike 112. Reporting "sick" (sick-in) 113. Strike by resignation 114. Limited strike 115. Selective strike Multi-Industry Strikes 116. Generalized strike 117. General strike Combination of Strikes and Economic Closures 118. Hartal 119. Economic shutdown The Methods of Political Noncooperation Rejection of Authority 120. Withholding or withdrawal of allegiance 121. Refusal of public support 122. Literature and speeches advocating resistance Citizens’ Noncooperation with Government 123. Boycott of legislative bodies 124. Boycott of elections 125. Boycott of government employment and positions 126. Boycott of government departments, agencies, and other bodies 127. Withdrawal from government educational institutions 128. Boycott of government-supported organizations 129. Refusal of assistance to enforcement agents 130. Removal of own signs and placemarks 131. Refusal to accept appointed officials 132. Refusal to dissolve existing institutions Citizens’ Alternatives to Obedience 133. Reluctant and slow compliance 134. Nonobedience in absence of direct supervision 135. Popular nonobedience 136. Disguised disobedience 137. Refusal of an assemblage or meeting to disperse 138. Sitdown 139. Noncooperation with conscription and deportation 140. Hiding, escape, and false identities 141. Civil disobedience of "illegitimate" laws Action by Government Personnel 142. Selective refusal of assistance by government aides 143. Blocking of lines of command and information 144. Stalling and obstruction 145. General administrative noncooperation 146. Judicial noncooperation 147. Deliberate inefficiency and selective noncooperation by enforcement agents 148. Mutiny Domestic Governmental Action 149. Quasi-legal evasions and delays 150. Noncooperation by constituent governmental units International Governmental Action 151. Changes in diplomatic and other representations 152. Delay and cancellation of diplomatic events 153. Withholding of diplomatic recognition 154. Severance of diplomatic relations 155. Withdrawal from international organizations 156. Refusal of membership in international bodies 157. Expulsion from international organizations The Methods of Nonviolent Intervention Psychological Intervention 158. Self-exposure to the elements 159. The fast a) Fast of moral pressure b) Hunger strike c) Satyagrahic fast 160. Reverse trial 161. Nonviolent harassment Physical Intervention 162. Sit-in 163. Stand-in 164. Ride-in 165. Wade-in 166. Mill-in 167. Pray-in 168. Nonviolent raids 169. Nonviolent air raids 170. Nonviolent invasion 171. Nonviolent interjection 172. Nonviolent obstruction 173. Nonviolent occupation Social Intervention 174. Establishing new social patterns 175. Overloading of facilities 176. Stall-in 177. Speak-in 178. Guerrilla theater 179. Alternative social institutions 180. Alternative communication system Economic Intervention 181. Reverse strike 182. Stay-in strike 183. Nonviolent land seizure 184. Defiance of blockades 185. Politically motivated counterfeiting 186. Preclusive purchasing 187. Seizure of assets 188. Dumping 189. Selective patronage 190. Alternative markets 191. Alternative transportation systems 192. Alternative economic institutions Political Intervention 193. Overloading of administrative systems 194. Disclosing identities of secret agents 195. Seeking imprisonment 196. Civil disobedience of "neutral" laws 197. Work-on without collaboration 198. Dual sovereignty and parallel government Source: Sharp, Gene. The Politics of Nonviolent Action (3 Vols.), Boston: Porter Sargent, 1973. Provided courtesy of the Albert Einstein Institution. <em>Alexander M Zoltai's last blog post..<a href='http://amzuri.wordpress.com/2009/05/10/we-really-are-one-big-family/'>We Really Are One Big Family</a></em> Want to take a crack at translating the following into Peace-Talk terms?

198 Methods of Nonviolent Action.

Practitioners of nonviolent struggle have an entire arsenal of “nonviolent weapons” at their disposal. Listed below are 198 of them, classified into three broad categories: nonviolent protest and persuasion, noncooperation (social, economic, and political), and nonviolent intervention. A description and historical examples of each can be found in volume two of “The Politics of Nonviolent Action” by Gene Sharp.

The Methods of Nonviolent Protest and Persuasion

Formal Statements
1. Public Speeches
2. Letters of opposition or support
3. Declarations by organizations and institutions
4. Signed public statements
5. Declarations of indictment and intention
6. Group or mass petitions

Communications with a Wider Audience
7. Slogans, caricatures, and symbols
8. Banners, posters, and displayed communications
9. Leaflets, pamphlets, and books
10. Newspapers and journals
11. Records, radio, and television
12. Skywriting and earthwriting

Group Representations
13. Deputations
14. Mock awards
15. Group lobbying
16. Picketing
17. Mock elections

Symbolic Public Acts
18. Displays of flags and symbolic colors
19. Wearing of symbols
20. Prayer and worship
21. Delivering symbolic objects
22. Protest disrobings
23. Destruction of own property
24. Symbolic lights
25. Displays of portraits
26. Paint as protest
27. New signs and names
28. Symbolic sounds
29. Symbolic reclamations
30. Rude gestures

Pressures on Individuals
31. “Haunting” officials
32. Taunting officials
33. Fraternization
34. Vigils

Drama and Music
35. Humorous skits and pranks
36. Performances of plays and music
37. Singing

Processions
38. Marches
39. Parades
40. Religious processions
41. Pilgrimages
42. Motorcades

Honoring the Dead
43. Political mourning
44. Mock funerals
45. Demonstrative funerals
46. Homage at burial places

Public Assemblies
47. Assemblies of protest or support
48. Protest meetings
49. Camouflaged meetings of protest
50. Teach-ins

Withdrawal and Renunciation
51. Walk-outs
52. Silence
53. Renouncing honors
54. Turning one’s back
The Methods of Social Noncooperation

Ostracism of Persons
55. Social boycott
56. Selective social boycott
57. Lysistratic nonaction
58. Excommunication
59. Interdict

Noncooperation with Social Events, Customs, and Institutions
60. Suspension of social and sports activities
61. Boycott of social affairs
62. Student strike
63. Social disobedience
64. Withdrawal from social institutions

Withdrawal from the Social System
65. Stay-at-home
66. Total personal noncooperation
67. “Flight” of workers
68. Sanctuary
69. Collective disappearance
70. Protest emigration (hijrat)
The Methods of Economic Noncooperation: Economic Boycotts

Actions by Consumers
71. Consumers’ boycott
72. Nonconsumption of boycotted goods
73. Policy of austerity
74. Rent withholding
75. Refusal to rent
76. National consumers’ boycott
77. International consumers’ boycott

Action by Workers and Producers
78. Workmen’s boycott
79. Producers’ boycott

Action by Middlemen
80. Suppliers’ and handlers’ boycott

Action by Owners and Management
81. Traders’ boycott
82. Refusal to let or sell property
83. Lockout
84. Refusal of industrial assistance
85. Merchants’ “general strike”

Action by Holders of Financial Resources
86. Withdrawal of bank deposits
87. Refusal to pay fees, dues, and assessments
88. Refusal to pay debts or interest
89. Severance of funds and credit
90. Revenue refusal
91. Refusal of a government’s money

Action by Governments
92. Domestic embargo
93. Blacklisting of traders
94. International sellers’ embargo
95. International buyers’ embargo
96. International trade embargo
The Methods of Economic Noncooperation: The Strike

Symbolic Strikes
97. Protest strike
98. Quickie walkout (lightning strike)

Agricultural Strikes
99. Peasant strike
100. Farm Workers’ strike

Strikes by Special Groups
101. Refusal of impressed labor
102. Prisoners’ strike
103. Craft strike
104. Professional strike

Ordinary Industrial Strikes
105. Establishment strike
106. Industry strike
107. Sympathetic strike

Restricted Strikes
108. Detailed strike
109. Bumper strike
110. Slowdown strike
111. Working-to-rule strike
112. Reporting “sick” (sick-in)
113. Strike by resignation
114. Limited strike
115. Selective strike

Multi-Industry Strikes
116. Generalized strike
117. General strike

Combination of Strikes and Economic Closures
118. Hartal
119. Economic shutdown
The Methods of Political Noncooperation

Rejection of Authority
120. Withholding or withdrawal of allegiance
121. Refusal of public support
122. Literature and speeches advocating resistance

Citizens’ Noncooperation with Government
123. Boycott of legislative bodies
124. Boycott of elections
125. Boycott of government employment and positions
126. Boycott of government departments, agencies, and other bodies
127. Withdrawal from government educational institutions
128. Boycott of government-supported organizations
129. Refusal of assistance to enforcement agents
130. Removal of own signs and placemarks
131. Refusal to accept appointed officials
132. Refusal to dissolve existing institutions

Citizens’ Alternatives to Obedience
133. Reluctant and slow compliance
134. Nonobedience in absence of direct supervision
135. Popular nonobedience
136. Disguised disobedience
137. Refusal of an assemblage or meeting to disperse
138. Sitdown
139. Noncooperation with conscription and deportation
140. Hiding, escape, and false identities
141. Civil disobedience of “illegitimate” laws

Action by Government Personnel
142. Selective refusal of assistance by government aides
143. Blocking of lines of command and information
144. Stalling and obstruction
145. General administrative noncooperation
146. Judicial noncooperation
147. Deliberate inefficiency and selective noncooperation by
enforcement agents
148. Mutiny

Domestic Governmental Action
149. Quasi-legal evasions and delays
150. Noncooperation by constituent governmental units

International Governmental Action
151. Changes in diplomatic and other representations
152. Delay and cancellation of diplomatic events
153. Withholding of diplomatic recognition
154. Severance of diplomatic relations
155. Withdrawal from international organizations
156. Refusal of membership in international bodies
157. Expulsion from international organizations
The Methods of Nonviolent Intervention

Psychological Intervention
158. Self-exposure to the elements
159. The fast
a) Fast of moral pressure
b) Hunger strike
c) Satyagrahic fast
160. Reverse trial
161. Nonviolent harassment

Physical Intervention
162. Sit-in
163. Stand-in
164. Ride-in
165. Wade-in
166. Mill-in
167. Pray-in
168. Nonviolent raids
169. Nonviolent air raids
170. Nonviolent invasion
171. Nonviolent interjection
172. Nonviolent obstruction
173. Nonviolent occupation

Social Intervention
174. Establishing new social patterns
175. Overloading of facilities
176. Stall-in
177. Speak-in
178. Guerrilla theater
179. Alternative social institutions
180. Alternative communication system

Economic Intervention
181. Reverse strike
182. Stay-in strike
183. Nonviolent land seizure
184. Defiance of blockades
185. Politically motivated counterfeiting
186. Preclusive purchasing
187. Seizure of assets
188. Dumping
189. Selective patronage
190. Alternative markets
191. Alternative transportation systems
192. Alternative economic institutions

Political Intervention
193. Overloading of administrative systems
194. Disclosing identities of secret agents
195. Seeking imprisonment
196. Civil disobedience of “neutral” laws
197. Work-on without collaboration
198. Dual sovereignty and parallel government

Source: Sharp, Gene. The Politics of Nonviolent Action (3 Vols.), Boston: Porter Sargent, 1973. Provided courtesy of the Albert Einstein Institution.

Alexander M Zoltai’s last blog post..We Really Are One Big Family

]]> By: Ian | Quantum Learning http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/comment-page-1/#comment-654033 Ian | Quantum Learning Tue, 12 May 2009 10:10:18 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/peaceful-communication-problems-and-solutions/#comment-654033 Very interesting and well put together. I'm a big fan of Rosenberg's approach as it's simple (though difficult to put in practice). I've been working in the area of peaceful communication for some years. I've come to the conclusion that how we listen to people is more important than how we express ourselves. Listening for what sits under the words of others (and not the words themsleves) takes me into authentic connection no matter what I hear. Getting our expression to be peaceful is an important first step, but if everyone can listen peacefully then it doesn't matter what people say. <em>Ian | Quantum Learning's last blog post..<a href='http://www.quantumlearning.pl/how-are-you'>How are you?</a></em> Very interesting and well put together.

I’m a big fan of Rosenberg’s approach as it’s simple (though difficult to put in practice). I’ve been working in the area of peaceful communication for some years. I’ve come to the conclusion that how we listen to people is more important than how we express ourselves.

Listening for what sits under the words of others (and not the words themsleves) takes me into authentic connection no matter what I hear.

Getting our expression to be peaceful is an important first step, but if everyone can listen peacefully then it doesn’t matter what people say.

Ian | Quantum Learning’s last blog post..How are you?

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