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anyone who uses writing for therapeutic purposes should read louise de salvo’s writing as a way of healing. quite a bit of what she writes is based on james w. pennebaker’s research on writing and health (do go to his web site, he has all kinds of neat little tests on it).
one of the main ideas behind de salvo’s and pennebaker’s work is that in order for writing to be therapeutic, it needs to both describe events and the feelings connected with them. de salvo offers a helpful list of do’s and don’ts, which i’ve reproduced here, with only a few changes:
do’s
- write twenty minutes a day over a period of four days. do this periodically. this way you won’t feel overwhelmed.
- write in a private, safe, comfortable environment.
- write about issues you’re currently living with, something you’re thinking or dreaming about constantly, a trauma you’ve never disclosed or discussed or resolved.
- write about joys and pleasures, too.
- write about what happened. write, too, about feelings about what happened. what do you feel? why do you feel this way?
- link events with feelings.
- try to write in a detailed, vivid, emotionally compelling way. don’t worry about correctness, about grammar or punctuation.
- beneficial effects will occur even if no one reads your writing. if you choose to keep your writing and not discard it, make sure to safeguard it.
- expect, initially, that in writing in this way you will have complex and perhaps difficult feelings. make sure you get support if you need to.
don’ts
- don’t use writing as a substitute for taking action.
- don’t become overly intellectual.
- don’t use writing as a way of complaining (isabella’s comment: although there can be usefulness in that, too, if you do it in a structured way – stay tuned for a follow-up post on that).
- don’t use your writing to discover how and why you feel as you do.
- don’t use your writing to become overly self-absorbed. overanalyzing everything is counterproductive.
- don’t use writing as a substitute for therapy or medical care.
if journaling is something that you’d like to do but haven’t been able to start or keep up, drop me a line, and we can arrange for a free 30-minute talk, face-to-face, online or via telephone.
isabella mori
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12 responses so far ↓
1 sziilvia nyari // Dec 21, 2006 at 2:36 pm
Find your website very helpfull, especially about journaling the feelings. It worked out for me today! Being in relationship with bipolar is sometimes hard, making me feeling very lonely. Anyway, as some people say, paper can take (bear) a lot and writing is helpfull in sorting out thoughts and emotions.
2 isabella mori // Dec 21, 2006 at 4:07 pm
i’m glad to hear it worked out for you! love the idea of “paper can take a lot of writing”. actually, it reminds me, when i was young, there was often a saying that a diary is one’s best friend.
3 Hueina Su // Dec 30, 2006 at 4:36 pm
Hi Isabella:
Thanks for sharing these great tips with us. The Carnival of Healing #66: Joy, Peace, Renewal is up at Intensive Care for the Nurturer’s Soul. Happy New Year!!
Warmly,
Hueina
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7 Gareth // Mar 28, 2007 at 7:17 pm
I would very much like to see an expansion of the “Don’ts… #4 use your writing to discover how and why you feel as you do.”
My journal is often a interogatory tool for me.
Thank you,
Gareth
8 isabella mori // Apr 9, 2007 at 11:22 am
what “don’t’s” would you suggest, gareth?
9 Scott // Nov 24, 2007 at 10:39 am
Gotta say that I disagree with all of the don’ts and most of the do’s. The thing about journalling is that it needs to be free. There is a lot of value in just writing what comes into your head, without worrying about a list of “dos and don’ts.”
I’m a writer, and there are times when I am self-absorbed and overly intellectual, when I complain loudly and bitterly, when I explore my feelings and thoughts and when I use my writing for therapy.
I think the best advice about writing can be summed up as: “Just write.” There is no right way or wrong way to write, especially when writing something as personal and important as a journal. Just get a pen and some paper and write 3 pages a day of whatever comes into your head.
10 kristen // Mar 9, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Dear Isabelle, I just finsihed reading Louise’s book and it was life-chaninging. So supportive and so logical. I just finished a memoir of time I spent in a religious cult in which I was sexually, physically and spiritually abused. Writing was an integral part of my healing. The book si called “Losing the Way” and will be out in June. (I hope you’ll check out my website. ) I’m giving a talk in June about this very subject at the International Cultic Studies Association annual conference.I really appreciate your website and all the valuable information you have here. It’s daunting but it’s great! keep up the good work. I look forward to reading more! kristen
11 isabella mori // Mar 9, 2008 at 8:40 pm
yes, kristen, isn’t this an amazing book?
please stay in touch, and when your book is out, maybe i can write a review!
12 kristen // Mar 12, 2008 at 7:58 am
thanks, I’ll keep in touch.
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