Comments on: identity guilt and oppression http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/ making lives better, making better lives Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:02:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/comment-page-1/#comment-367328 isabella mori Tue, 08 Jan 2008 23:53:07 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/#comment-367328 Here's something DK has contributed: "I referenced your blog in mine yesterday and we had a discussion in my comments about identity guilt versus shame. Do you equate them? Also, I found it very interesting that "guilt" is defined only as a noun, whereas "shame" is both a noun and a verb. I would love more discussion on the last point you made that the ID guilt-er and ID guilt-ee cannot ever be peers. There is a lot to that, worth flushing out, IMHO." "DK" aka The Traveler Website: http://xdogotogodx.blogspot.com/ Here’s something DK has contributed:

“I referenced your blog in mine yesterday and we had a discussion in my comments
about identity guilt versus shame. Do you equate them?

Also, I found it very interesting that “guilt” is defined only as a noun, whereas “shame” is both a noun and a verb.

I would love more discussion on the last point you made that the ID guilt-er and ID guilt-ee cannot ever be peers. There is a lot to that, worth flushing out, IMHO.”

“DK” aka The Traveler

Website: http://xdogotogodx.blogspot.com/

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/comment-page-1/#comment-365738 isabella mori Sun, 06 Jan 2008 08:14:47 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/#comment-365738 hey nancy, i just realized you were commenter #1501. i guess i owe you a coffee! hey nancy, i just realized you were commenter #1501. i guess i owe you a coffee!

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/comment-page-1/#comment-365729 isabella mori Sun, 06 Jan 2008 07:08:32 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/#comment-365729 really? i personally can live quite well without french fries to begin with, and ketchup? that's an imposition :) really? i personally can live quite well without french fries to begin with, and ketchup? that’s an imposition
:)

]]> By: Nancy http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/comment-page-1/#comment-365725 Nancy Sun, 06 Jan 2008 06:44:31 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/#comment-365725 there's just one smallll problem: french fries without ketchup is an intolerable situation. <em>Nancy's last blog post..<a href='http://nancyzimmerman.com/2008/01/02/my-personal-money-goals-for-2008/' rel="nofollow">My personal money goals for 2008</a></em> there’s just one smallll problem: french fries without ketchup is an intolerable situation.

Nancy’s last blog post..My personal money goals for 2008

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/comment-page-1/#comment-365720 isabella mori Sun, 06 Jan 2008 06:34:43 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/#comment-365720 yes, nancy, i think that IS a very interesting topic. i honestly can't understand why a person without a partner is supposed to be less than one with a partner. what happened to the saying "a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle"? or maybe, let's coin a new one - how about a woman without a man is like ... hmmm .... a house without a swimming pool? tea without milk? french fries without ketchup? a taxi driver without a lamborghini? any more ideas? yes, nancy, i think that IS a very interesting topic. i honestly can’t understand why a person without a partner is supposed to be less than one with a partner.

what happened to the saying “a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle”?

or maybe, let’s coin a new one – how about

a woman without a man is like … hmmm ….

a house without a swimming pool?
tea without milk?
french fries without ketchup?
a taxi driver without a lamborghini?

any more ideas?

]]> By: Nancy http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/comment-page-1/#comment-365663 Nancy Sun, 06 Jan 2008 02:36:47 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/identity-guilt-and-oppression/#comment-365663 here's something possibly worth it's own post: the sexual politics of being single. I've been in relationships nearly my whole life, until the loveliest relationship of all ended 3 years ago. Since then, I have been caught up - happily - in my business, and also become increasingly politicized. Would the general public believe me if I claimed that I am deeply content in life, energized, and have such a vast sense of life, and life-purpose, that being in a relationship is simply one element that's not in the mix right now, and not a big deal to me? And might never be a really big deal to me anymore, for all I know? Should I feel 'guilty' when society tells me in a thousand ways that I am a woman only if I am either in a relationship, or seeking one? Or when people suggest that something is wrong, or closed-off in me because "a man" is simply not of particular interest to me right now? (honestly, it's enough even to make the likes of fierce-me second-guess myself!) Sometimes I'm tempted to become a nun just for the sheer radical statement of it! <em>Nancy's last blog post..<a href='http://nancyzimmerman.com/2008/01/02/my-personal-money-goals-for-2008/' rel="nofollow">My personal money goals for 2008</a></em> here’s something possibly worth it’s own post: the sexual politics of being single. I’ve been in relationships nearly my whole life, until the loveliest relationship of all ended 3 years ago. Since then, I have been caught up – happily – in my business, and also become increasingly politicized.

Would the general public believe me if I claimed that I am deeply content in life, energized, and have such a vast sense of life, and life-purpose, that being in a relationship is simply one element that’s not in the mix right now, and not a big deal to me? And might never be a really big deal to me anymore, for all I know?

Should I feel ‘guilty’ when society tells me in a thousand ways that I am a woman only if I am either in a relationship, or seeking one? Or when people suggest that something is wrong, or closed-off in me because “a man” is simply not of particular interest to me right now? (honestly, it’s enough even to make the likes of fierce-me second-guess myself!)

Sometimes I’m tempted to become a nun just for the sheer radical statement of it!

Nancy’s last blog post..My personal money goals for 2008

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