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]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-382373 isabella mori Thu, 31 Jan 2008 19:19:32 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-382373 @siro, thanks for expanding on the effect of the word "must"! @wendi, i just got your comment from a few days ago. it was about to be swallowed by my spam program ... thanks for pointing to your post, i remember it - what you say there is very important! @siro, thanks for expanding on the effect of the word “must”!

@wendi, i just got your comment from a few days ago. it was about to be swallowed by my spam program …

thanks for pointing to your post, i remember it – what you say there is very important!

]]> By: Siro http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-380455 Siro Tue, 29 Jan 2008 18:37:35 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-380455 The word must IS really the worst word. When depressed I think most people are all too able to drown themselves with that word. And it makes you even more depressed when you are not able to do the musts, it just confirms your total failuer. I'm nor Englishspeaking, I'm having trouble finding the words. I don't think there is an easy solution to cure depression. But I do believe in compassion and empathy. The word must IS really the worst word. When depressed I think most people are all too able to drown themselves with that word. And it makes you even more depressed when you are not able to do the musts, it just confirms your total failuer.

I’m nor Englishspeaking, I’m having trouble finding the words. I don’t think there is an easy solution to cure depression. But I do believe in compassion and empathy.

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-380419 isabella mori Tue, 29 Jan 2008 17:52:00 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-380419 rhei, thanks for stopping by! the suggestions of balance, bonding and relaxation are great. however, in my experience, "must" is one of the worst words one can use with someone who is depressed ... rhei, thanks for stopping by!

the suggestions of balance, bonding and relaxation are great. however, in my experience, “must” is one of the worst words one can use with someone who is depressed …

]]> By: Rhei, writer Surefirewealth.com http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-379970 Rhei, writer Surefirewealth.com Tue, 29 Jan 2008 03:47:50 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-379970 To get rid of depression, one must have a balance life. We all might be busy with our daily chores but we must set dates where we could create a bond with our family, friends and to our special someone. Relaxation should be done once a week so that we could perceive things by the following week positively. <em>Rhei, writer Surefirewealth.com's last blog post..<a href='http://www.surefirewealth.com/blog/mass-control/an-incredible-opportunity-for-100-people' rel="nofollow">An Incredible Opportunity for 100 People - Click Play to Watch this Sneak Peak Video then Get Ready for Feb 1st</a></em> To get rid of depression, one must have a balance life. We all might be busy with our daily chores but we must set dates where we could create a bond with our family, friends and to our special someone. Relaxation should be done once a week so that we could perceive things by the following week positively.

Rhei, writer Surefirewealth.com’s last blog post..An Incredible Opportunity for 100 People – Click Play to Watch this Sneak Peak Video then Get Ready for Feb 1st

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-378698 isabella mori Sat, 26 Jan 2008 15:18:47 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-378698 hi marc, and thanks again for a very interesting comment. i'm really glad we met here in the blogosphere! there are just so many ways of dealing with depression - which makes sense because we are all unique. externalizing depression as some entity of its own can often be helpful - actually, there is some research that suggests that people who externalize unpleasant experiences tend to be happier. thinking "about" depression when you're depressed - yes, i don't know if i've ever seen that work. generally, while depressed, our mental activity often veers into brooding, and that is just a downwards spiral, similar to what you just described. now thinking "with" depression, or thinking ourselves "out of depression" - that's a different story. material for another post. hi marc, and thanks again for a very interesting comment. i’m really glad we met here in the blogosphere!

there are just so many ways of dealing with depression – which makes sense because we are all unique. externalizing depression as some entity of its own can often be helpful – actually, there is some research that suggests that people who externalize unpleasant experiences tend to be happier.

thinking “about” depression when you’re depressed – yes, i don’t know if i’ve ever seen that work. generally, while depressed, our mental activity often veers into brooding, and that is just a downwards spiral, similar to what you just described.

now thinking “with” depression, or thinking ourselves “out of depression” – that’s a different story. material for another post.

]]> By: Marc Olmsted http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-376607 Marc Olmsted Wed, 23 Jan 2008 21:57:56 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-376607 Coming from the alcoholic perspective, I find it helpful to think of depression as a disease with an intelligence and an agenda. It wants to survive and will resist any attempt to dislodge it. That can be very frustrating when you are trying to help someone, as they will often be much more amenable to the suggetions that will least likely work, and most resistant to what may well help. A wise friend reminded me that depression will often deliver up the message that if you just spend another 30 minutes thinking about it, you will find the magic key to make it lift. Of course, the exact opposite is what occurs. Coming from the alcoholic perspective, I find it helpful to think of depression as a disease with an intelligence and an agenda. It wants to survive and will resist any attempt to dislodge it. That can be very frustrating when you are trying to help someone, as they will often be much more amenable to the suggetions that will least likely work, and most resistant to what may well help. A wise friend reminded me that depression will often deliver up the message that if you just spend another 30 minutes thinking about it, you will find the magic key to make it lift. Of course, the exact opposite is what occurs.

]]> By: Wendi http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-376423 Wendi Wed, 23 Jan 2008 14:58:50 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-376423 This is a great post. Very helpful to people who don't understand. Thanks. ;-) I wrote the following a few months ago, in an attempt to help my friends/readers know what I need, and people have responded wonderfully (including you, isabella!): http://wsquared.journalspace.com/?entryid=1133 This is a great post. Very helpful to people who don’t understand. Thanks. ;-)

I wrote the following a few months ago, in an attempt to help my friends/readers know what I need, and people have responded wonderfully (including you, isabella!):

http://wsquared.journalspace.com/?entryid=1133

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-376237 isabella mori Wed, 23 Jan 2008 07:24:40 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-376237 thanks, siro, thanks for sharing your experience. thanks, siro, thanks for sharing your experience.

]]> By: Siro http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/comment-page-1/#comment-376231 Siro Wed, 23 Jan 2008 07:11:06 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/article/helping-a-friend-with-depression/#comment-376231 What helps? Friends and family not giving up on me. Friends and family that keep on trying to make contact with me, telling me they love me no matter what. Therapists that acknowledge the pain and agony, but don't let me bury myself in it. "I see you, you're having a terrible time now. I'm here for you, what can we do to make things better?" What helps?

Friends and family not giving up on me. Friends and family that keep on trying to make contact with me, telling me they love me no matter what. Therapists that acknowledge the pain and agony, but don’t let me bury myself in it.

“I see you, you’re having a terrible time now. I’m here for you, what can we do to make things better?”

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