Comments on: eating disorders, depression and perfectionism http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/ making lives better, making better lives Thu, 09 Feb 2012 10:02:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Jason Ward http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-842486 Jason Ward Thu, 21 Apr 2011 14:32:18 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-842486 Depression is the twin of eating disorders and in my experience they go hand in hand.....the over eating is an attempt to self sooth unconscious anxieties that the concious personality is unable to contain, regulate or integrate......one has to identify the trauma or rather traumas that have split off the authentic self. Depression is the twin of eating disorders and in my experience they go hand in hand…..the over eating is an attempt to self sooth unconscious anxieties that the concious personality is unable to contain, regulate or integrate……one has to identify the trauma or rather traumas that have split off the authentic self.

]]> By: isabella mori http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-774414 isabella mori Sat, 23 Oct 2010 21:50:26 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-774414 hi jordan - thanks for the comment. i don't think therese borchard is saying that the eating disorder stays with EVERYONE for every single meal - experiences vary so widely! no matter what, if you get help and work through it, you WILL be able to get on with your life. hi jordan – thanks for the comment. i don’t think therese borchard is saying that the eating disorder stays with EVERYONE for every single meal – experiences vary so widely! no matter what, if you get help and work through it, you WILL be able to get on with your life.

]]> By: Jordan http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-774346 Jordan Sat, 23 Oct 2010 17:05:29 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-774346 i love this article. I hope, however, that your wrong about the eating disorder staying with you at every single meal. Its hard to imagine having a family and job with the disorder controlling and planning all your thoughts ): dont get me wrong your words are inspiring and lifting! i just hope the disorder will let go eventually so i can get on with life and other people can too i love this article. I hope, however, that your wrong about the eating disorder staying with you at every single meal. Its hard to imagine having a family and job with the disorder controlling and planning all your thoughts ): dont get me wrong your words are inspiring and lifting! i just hope the disorder will let go eventually so i can get on with life and other people can too

]]> By: Steven Harold http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-736471 Steven Harold Mon, 14 Jun 2010 08:02:09 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-736471 In my experience as a hypnotherapist, in working with patients with perfectionists issues, part of this way of thinking stems from not receiving positive reiniforcement of efforts made with tasks/exams/goals as a child and/or teenager. This led to a perception that their best was not good enough and only perfection would do. Given how often perfection is unlikely to be achieved this gave rise to feelings of inadaquacy, loss of motivation and depression. An eating disorder includes can include these elements too. Trying to be a certain size or shape based a what is perceived as the perfect size and shape of fashin models, pop stars etc. In my experience as a hypnotherapist, in working with patients with perfectionists issues, part of this way of thinking stems from not receiving positive reiniforcement of efforts made with tasks/exams/goals as a child and/or teenager. This led to a perception that their best was not good enough and only perfection would do. Given how often perfection is unlikely to be achieved this gave rise to feelings of inadaquacy, loss of motivation and depression. An eating disorder includes can include these elements too. Trying to be a certain size or shape based a what is perceived as the perfect size and shape of fashin models, pop stars etc.

]]> By: Olla Ferroviaria http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-698801 Olla Ferroviaria Mon, 01 Mar 2010 12:13:45 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-698801 I think the perfectionism no exist. .-= Olla Ferroviaria´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.ollaferroviaria.com/receta-ferroviaria-tradicional/" rel="nofollow">Receta ferroviaria tradicional</a> =-. I think the perfectionism no exist.
.-= Olla Ferroviaria´s last blog ..Receta ferroviaria tradicional =-.

]]> By: Eating disorders, self image, depression and perfectionism http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-693931 Eating disorders, self image, depression and perfectionism Sat, 13 Feb 2010 22:18:52 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-693931 [...] got me interested in all this again was psychotherapist Isabella Mori’s [@moritherapy] post eating disorders, depression and perfectionism. She notes that Therese Borchard [in her book Beyond Blue] quotes from Cherry Boone [...] [...] got me interested in all this again was psychotherapist Isabella Mori’s [@moritherapy] post eating disorders, depression and perfectionism. She notes that Therese Borchard [in her book Beyond Blue] quotes from Cherry Boone [...]

]]> By: Fiona Place http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-693749 Fiona Place Sat, 13 Feb 2010 09:11:47 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-693749 There is no doubt perfectionism goes hand in hand with an eating disorder - however I do believe recovery is not only possible, but that life can be free from what can be an all consuming passion/distress with weight and food. Fiona, author of Cardboard: A woman left for dead There is no doubt perfectionism goes hand in hand with an eating disorder – however I do believe recovery is not only possible, but that life can be free from what can be an all consuming passion/distress with weight and food. Fiona, author of Cardboard: A woman left for dead

]]> By: ClinicallyClueless http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-692202 ClinicallyClueless Sat, 06 Feb 2010 17:01:29 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-692202 I find that perfectionism has been a constant in my life which uncovered is self-hatred as is an eating disorder. I don't believe that you can have an eating disorder without a mood disorder. They seem to go hand in hand. I would think that treating someone with a mood disorder would be much easier than treating someone with an eating disorder and mood disorder. After all the eating disorder is only a symptom of something deeper. For me, it has been depression and expressing my emotions. Eating disorders are a great defensive...not very helpful though. .-= ClinicallyClueless´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ClinicallyClueless/~3/3_T3wXP1XkQ/short-songs-by-tim-hawkins.html" rel="nofollow">Short Songs by Tim Hawkins</a> =-. I find that perfectionism has been a constant in my life which uncovered is self-hatred as is an eating disorder. I don’t believe that you can have an eating disorder without a mood disorder. They seem to go hand in hand. I would think that treating someone with a mood disorder would be much easier than treating someone with an eating disorder and mood disorder. After all the eating disorder is only a symptom of something deeper. For me, it has been depression and expressing my emotions. Eating disorders are a great defensive…not very helpful though.
.-= ClinicallyClueless´s last blog ..Short Songs by Tim Hawkins =-.

]]> By: Carol Welch http://www.moritherapy.org/article/eating-disorders-depression-and-perfectionism/comment-page-1/#comment-691996 Carol Welch Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:59:00 +0000 http://www.moritherapy.org/?p=1738#comment-691996 Wow. I don't thing I ever thought about the eating disorder being with one 'at every meal,' even after one gets 'well.' I've thought of this with other chronic conditions, but not with food. Sometime in the past couple years as I've continued to understand my own battle with perfectionism, trying to not push it away, but rather somehow embrace/honor one of these darker sides of me....I asked myself, "What is one thing I am perfect at?" The answer came: "Imperfection." light bulb.... "The only perfect thing there is, is imperfection." ....at least as far as humanity goes. It was kind of freeing for me. Simple and obvious...but at that moment, freeing. I've written various poems with perfectionism in mind. I've linked one of my favorites, via my name above. Hope that's o.k. (Head's up: it does contain some *language.*) Thanks for this entry Mori....and all the others too. I enjoy 'reading' you. :-) To life! ~cw ********* I love this quote you referenced: "...to write from wherever i am, not from where i want to be, because the journey – full of backward steps – is what makes material real and most helpful." .-= Carol Welch´s last blog ..<a href="http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/ParchmentAnthology/~3/8atmi-vQPOY/ride.html" rel="nofollow">The Ride</a> =-. Wow. I don’t thing I ever thought about the eating disorder being with one ‘at every meal,’ even after one gets ‘well.’ I’ve thought of this with other chronic conditions, but not with food.

Sometime in the past couple years as I’ve continued to understand my own battle with perfectionism, trying to not push it away, but rather somehow embrace/honor one of these darker sides of me….I asked myself, “What is one thing I am perfect at?”

The answer came: “Imperfection.”

light bulb…. “The only perfect thing there is, is imperfection.” ….at least as far as humanity goes.

It was kind of freeing for me. Simple and obvious…but at that moment, freeing.

I’ve written various poems with perfectionism in mind. I’ve linked one of my favorites, via my name above. Hope that’s o.k. (Head’s up: it does contain some *language.*)

Thanks for this entry Mori….and all the others too. I enjoy ‘reading’ you. :-)

To life!
~cw

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I love this quote you referenced:
“…to write from wherever i am, not from where i want to be, because the journey – full of backward steps – is what makes material real and most helpful.”
.-= Carol Welch´s last blog ..The Ride =-.

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