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dr. joe capista on: going to retreats

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dr. joe capista on: going to retreats

March 3rd, 2008 · 8 Comments

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once again i’m involved in a virtual book tour, this time for dr. joe capista’s book, what can a dentist teach you aboutrivendell retreat on bowen island business, life and success? for the next three days, i will discuss sections in this book where he talks about his experience with spirituality.

if you want to learn more about dr. capista, please go here.

today, i want to present to you what dr. capista says about retreats:

malvern is a christian retreat that happens to be catholic. you don’t have to be catholic to participate. it’s a semi structured weekend with religious services, quiet time, reflection time, meditation and prayer. they have a retreat master who gives various talks throughout the weekend based on a specific theme.

malvern was so amazing i vowed to attend every year without ever allowing any excuses. my first retreat at malvern so moved me that when i came home from the weekend i told charlie, “if i ever tell you i can’t go to malvern, tell me i’m a liar. there will never be a reason why i can’t go.”

the time i invested at malvern made me realize i needed a period at least once a year to have quiet time; to look back over the previous year and reflect. until i really participated in quiet time, i didn’t realize how much i craved it.

what intrigued me about this was his 100% commitment to go to the retreat. i know the intense restorative and mobilizing power of spiritual retreats and try to go to one a year. while this “trying” has mostly been successful, a) trying sounds a little weak and b) i’d actually like to go to more than one a year.

as i was reflecting on this, i thought about things i don’t just “try”. i don’t “try” to love my children. i don’t “try” to be committed to compassion. i don’t “try” to be creative. i just do it.

so what’s the difference?

i don’t know but it’s sure something to think about.

has that happened to you? “trying” to do something that you really yearn for? what would it take to turn this into something that you just do, no questions asked?

(this post was included in the just write carnival at the incurable disease of writing, as well as in the happiness carnival)

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(the image of rivendell, one of my favourite retreat places, is by fellow vancouver blogger boris mann)

 

Tags: interesting books · spirituality

8 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Nancy // Mar 3, 2008 at 9:01 pm

    what an intriguing question. One thing that comes to mind is that the things you mentioned will result in action, but aren’t themselves action, but inner commitments/feelings. Going on a retreat is an action. Actions have a strong measure of ‘iff’ to them.
    and I went on a retreat to Rivendell for my first time last November. The power went out to make it all the more intense. Me, a book, a fireplace and organic chocolate while the wind whipped outside.

    Nancy’s last blog post..Monday?s Personal Praxis: 5 easy tips to shop green. What are your tips?

  • 2 isabella mori // Mar 3, 2008 at 9:18 pm

    nancy, you’re really taking this and running with it.

    the fact that feelings lead to actions … hmmm … yes, of course …

    what exactly do you mean by ‘actions have a strong measure of ‘iff’ to them (i presume you mean ‘if and only if’)?

    (rivendell’s a magical place, isn’t it? i have the great pleasure of knowing one of the people who built it. talk about commitment and action.)

  • 3 Nancy // Mar 3, 2008 at 9:34 pm

    “iff” in that actions occur if and only if we do, in fact, Act. So, while you love your family always that love is not an action itself, although will likely prompt action, whereas going on a retreat is *going* (packing, booking the place, driving) on a retreat. So retreats may or may not happen (hence ‘try’ applies to the intent) whereas the former happens regardless of action.
    Many of my clients very much desire a well-ordered financial life, but it stays in the realm of ‘try’. And the question indeed is, ‘what would it take to turn this into something that you just do, no questions asked’?
    hmmm— how do you feel about making a guest post out of this for my blog?

    Nancy’s last blog post..Monday?s Personal Praxis: 5 easy tips to shop green. What are your tips?

  • 4 isabella mori // Mar 4, 2008 at 6:47 am

    interesting what you say about action there. to me, loving, being compassionate and being creative are hands-on actions. they involve feelings and thoughts but if i don’t DO them they’re kinda vapid, no?

    would love to contribute my reflections on this for your blog, thanks for the invite. some time next week?

  • 5 Sandra McDonald // Mar 13, 2008 at 8:05 pm

    Hmmmm…do you pray every day? or do you try to pray everyday? What is the difference between someone who takes time to pray every day and someone who tries to pray everyday?

  • 6 isabella mori // Mar 14, 2008 at 12:11 pm

    hi sandra … i don’t quite get the question. care to elaborate?

  • 7 Jonathan Clark // May 16, 2008 at 7:33 am

    I so agree with you on the “trying thing”. I’ve had a number of students pose me similar questions and I love the way you put it. May I quote you or forward this blog to them?

  • 8 isabella mori // May 16, 2008 at 7:53 am

    hi jonathan - please go ahead and pass this around - once it’s out in the blogosphere, it’s there for all to see.

    the whole concept of trying is worth a blog post or three. what do we want to get across when we say we’re trying to do something?

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