change therapy

if you’re new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. thanks for visiting!it’s been a year since i last hosted a carnival of healing, so it’s great to come back to this. as usual, there were many submissions. so this is a rather long post. i’ve categorized them […]

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today i’m guest blogging over at alex’s blog, our evolution, about a profound experience i had some years ago that allowed me to transcend my little judgments and and truly listen to the essence of what is said. you’d think that as a counsellor, that should be second nature to me – and i […]

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just a few quick thoughts here, inspired by my twitter friend todd. in his tweetings today and his most recent blog post, he talks about a social media tool called friendfeed.
“friend” is a word that’s used a lot in social media. often it’s just the name that you give a contact on whatever […]

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yesterday i had a wonderful conversation with dr. matthew b. james about the hawaiian spiritual system of huna. since this is national mental health week and the focus of this year’s mental health week is workplace mental health, i asked him about huna in the workplace.
what is huna?
first of all, what is huna? […]

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i love all your comments, people! one of the things i had hoped for in my goals for this year was to have more conversations on this blog, and i think that’s happening. thank you so much!
so with this in mind, i thought it’s time to throw together some comment guidelines. not […]

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over at my “buddy blog” finding your marbles, there is a really good discussion about what happens in therapy. this post here talks about ending therapy. scott asked me to comment on a conundrum a commenter is experiencing.
here’s the problem:
i was sure i could go it alone but couldn’t face telling my therapist […]

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i’m really taking you guys for a ride here. compassion, families, spamming buddhists - and now a little bit of educational research. i guess in my minds it all hangs together: it’s all about how people make a better life for themselves, and a better world for everyone.
so … today we have part […]

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christmas day. after a nice walk through the winter snow here in kelowna, we just came back from one of our numerous big traditional family get-togethers during the holiday season. once again i’m struck by how easygoing and friendly my husband’s big clan is. what are they doing right?

they are tolerant – […]

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i’d like to thank sarah for a very insightful analysis of the counsellor’s creed, which i had posted last year.
the wording of that creed is not necessarily the one i would have used – but then, i try to read for what seems to be the spirit of the words.
what sarah says about the parent/spouse/lover/master/servant […]

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yesterday we started a discussion of bad job experiences – part of a blog conversation i’m having with jacob share from the job mob.
so yesterday we set the scene – an awful, awful work environment with a boss or co-workers who make your life miserable.
what can you do about it?
here are the first steps back […]

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what was the worst job you’ve ever had? what are ways of surviving that experience – and not just surviving but learning from it and thriving in the next job?
that’s the topic of a blog conversation jacob from the job mob and i will be having in the next little while. jacob started […]

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yesterday at the vancouver meditation meetup, our guest presenter, tsuneo yamazaki, led a visualization in which he had us imagine a happy childhood memory.
one person simply remembered her state of well being and contentment as a child. another person didn’t recall a specific event but reconstructed a memory that he was quite sure must […]

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the other day, nancy asked an interesting question in her saturday case study:
jeff and his two siblings, a brother and sister, each inherited a sizeable legacy when their parents died. jeff was conservative, and grew his legacy into an even more significant nest egg and is now independently wealthy.
he came to me because there was […]

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so much of blogging is about building relationships, and sometimes even friendships. and ideally, it’s not just about using relationships to further the blog; it’s about furthering relationships. maybe blogging can help us do that, can help us learn a bit about relationships.
take this:
linkfarming, linkbait, link begging and, urgh, link whoring.
these words don’t sound […]

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“never mind the answers – just ask the right questions!”
this is so true. last sunday i participated in a conference, dream vancouver, intended to encourage citizens to articulate their visions and hopes for an even better vancouver. the main process of the conference was organized around appreciative inquiry.
appreciative inquiry is a philosophy and […]

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