Monthly Archives: January 2007

carnival of eating disorders #2

we read a lot about women with body image problems. but what about men? well, in this, the second carnival of eating disorders, you’ll read someone’s reflections on that. and while we’re at it, why don’t we talk some more about what guys have to say on the subject, since it is often seen as a women’s topic.

charly discusses his recovery from overeating. hal deals with self sabotage and weight loss, craig shares his experience with exercise anorexia, and matthew points out the dangers of Continue reading

the first step

i’ve been interested in the 12 steps for almost as long as i’ve been a counsellor – 15 years now. what first attracted me to them was their fierce commitment to honesty and being real, to be humble, and to follow an ethical and spiritual way of life.

the 12 steps came originally from alcoholics anonymous, back in the 1930s. it soon became obvious that they would be helpful for other situations as well – for people with alcoholics or drug users in their lives (alanon and naranon), gamblers (GA), drug users (NA), people with eating disorders (OA), people with codependency issues (CODA), people who are chronically in debt (DA), etc. for some background, history and the inevitable controversies, check out this wikipedia article.

a lot of people, me including, feel that the 12 steps can be guidelines for anyone who wants to live a better life. therefore, i’d like to start a series here discussing them, one step a month.

open-mindedness is something that the steps encourage. so Continue reading

illness? normal? i just want to feel good.

“isn’t even negative thinking a mental illness? so we all have some form of mental illness.” that was michelle’s comment on the vote for mental health posting.

mental illness. what is that? let’s say illness is a deviation from normal functioning and well-being.

so then the question is – what is normal?

“normal” is entirely a cultural construct, something that a Continue reading

make it worth your while

when is something worth doing? and how often do you do things that are worth your while? how often do you squander away your day? this is something david seah, a freelance IT professional, asked himself, and he came up with this great system.david-seah-tracker.jpg

there’s really little i can add, other than kudos to david.

you can go here and create your own tracking sheet.

this here is david’s tracking sheet.

i greatly appreciate how david freely shares his work. as touched upon in an earlier posting, everyone gains when, as david says, we let a thousand ideas bloom.

isabella mori
counselling in vancouver

dialogue: speaking the truth

a few days ago, we talked here about the rejection of jay’s six-word story because it was supposedly not g-rated. jay’s and jennifer’s comments on it were so thought-provoking that i decided to post my replies to them here.

this is not just about one incidence. it’s about how to best deal with the lack of knowledge about the realities of people who are part of minority groups; it’s about communication; about language; about peace.

so here is my open letter to Continue reading

walking the talk

my friend aaron – all-round artist, geek, environmentalist, treeplanter, and last not least full-time human being – is at it again.

he’s walking for the cure from cars.photo by aaron veldstra

talk about walking the talk. and since this time he’s documenting his journeys so beautifully, we could say he’s also talking his walk.

so. the cure from cars. let’s see what aaron has to say about this:

cars have given much to the world’s population, specifically its north american population. with henry ford, cars became an intrinsic part the world’s economy, bringing great wealth to many coffers and jumpstarting an immigrant’s america. later, jack kerouac and neal cassady mythologized the car with their rambling drives through a mid-20th century america. … Continue reading