10 happy questions

as you know, questions have a special place in my heart (see this post on encouraging questions, for example.)

as i was preparing for a little workshop i facilitated today on solution focused coaching and counselling, i realized that my first discovery of the power of questions was not back in 1999, when i first really learned about the various delightful forms of brief therapy (solution focused brief therapy being one of them) but back in 1991, when i was studying to become a TRAGER® practitioner. TRAGER® is a form of bodywork that, among other things, asks gentle, curious, open questions about delightful possibilities we carry in our minds, hearts and bodies.

we gently shake out our hands, feel the weight, and ask: what could be lighter?

we let our arms hang down loosely and ask our shoulder joints: what could be freer?

we let our legs dangle from a massage table, allowing the calf muscles to relax and ask: what could be softer?

this shows that meaningful questions can be useful not only in one-on-one therapy, with the therapist posing the questions. they can have an important place even if we ask them of ourselves. in fact, questions like these are designed to bring us joy simply by asking them, without regard to what the reply might be.

other example of such happy questions are

  1. what puts a smile on my face?
  2. what feels good on my fingertips?
  3. what’s the beauty in this?
  4. what opens my heart?
  5. how does this delight me?
  6. what’s the song that makes my heart dance?
  7. what feels silky/cool/warm [whatever your favourite sensation is]?
  8. where in my body do i feel god/the creator/the universe right now?
  9. who do i love with all my heart?
  10. what does happiness look like?

what happy questions do you have?

(post script on october 19 – there is a fabulous companion post about this topic on joanna young’s blog – coaching questions of the season)

10 thoughts on “10 happy questions

  1. Angelina

    What an uplifting post, reading your blog does bring me happiness.
    I think you have exhausted the questions on happiness, but here is a few…

    Why do sunny days make people happy?
    What is your favorite food to enjoy with friends?
    Does reading about happiness make you happy?
    .-= Angelina´s last blog ..HAPPY FALL DAY! =-.

  2. sandyphd

    Excellent, uplifting and clinically helpful post! This is why I love the blog world so much. So thank you.

    Here are a few Q’s I came up with:

    Where is your favorite place to walk?
    Where is your favorite place to sit and enjoy nature?
    What gives you that thrilling, “it’s great to be alive” feeling?
    What do you feel grateful for?
    .-= sandyphd´s last blog ..feeling friendless =-.

  3. isabella mori

    thanks for the great ideas! just reading these questions make me feel good.

    i’ve dedicated today’s tweets mostly to this. you can see them on the right hand side here on this blog, or look at them on twitter under #happyquestion
    .-= isabella mori (@moritherapy)´s last blog ..10 happy questions =-.

  4. LunaJune

    I stumbled upon this spot, and questions I have a few :

    If you could be anything you wanted to be today, what would you be?

    What smell makes you salivate?

    What do you love about yourself?

    I think I’m going to like strolling around here :)

    All Life is Energy, stop and feel it daily… because it feels you.
    .-= LunaJune´s last blog ..My Muse =-.

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  6. CT

    What an uplifting post, reading your blog does bring me happiness.
    I think you have exhausted the questions on happiness, but here is a few…

    Why do sunny days make people happy?
    What is your favorite food to enjoy with friends?
    Does reading about happiness make you happy?
    .-= Angelina´s last blog ..<a href=”http://thedestinywithin.blogspot.com/2009/09/happy-fall-day.html” rel=”nofollow”>HAPPY FALL DAY!</a> =-.

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